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Relationships Matter – Blame

In my opinion blame should be avoided at all costs. Most of us are quick to find fault elsewhere and slow to admitting fault in ourselves. Continue reading

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Relationships Matter – Conflict

Conflict may be described as “a state of opposition between persons or ideas or interests” – Source wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn. Once we have encountered someone they are permanently recorded in our memory and not forgotten unless we suffer some sort of catastrophic, irreversible memory loss. Whenever we encounter someone, however briefly, we establish a relationship that we never really “lose”. It continues to exist in one of four states – Harmony, Triggers, Conflict or Resolution. Continue reading

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Relationships Matter – Negotiation

Because we all have a unique perspective on life negotiation and, by extension, compromise are crucial parts of all of our relationships with other people. Continue reading

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Relationships Matter – Personalities

A key aspect of having effective relationships is the recognition of the multiple personalities within us and within others. In extreme cases these multiple personalities manifest in the form of severe mental illness such as multiple personality disorder and schizophrenia. Fortunately for most of us, experiences of these psychological extremes are rare occurrences. Anybody who has been through severe emotional distress such as denial, anger, grief etc will have experienced these extremes even if just for the briefest of moments. These temporary extremes can be described as altered states which can also be caused by stimulants, relaxants, and depressants (e.g. alcohol, cigarettes, drugs etc). Continue reading

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Relationships Matter – Decisions

There only truly wrong decision is deciding not to make a decision. Deciding to do nothing is not always a wrong decision. Continue reading

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Relationships Matter – Perspective

The unique combination of our nature and nurture results in the development of our own unique sense of reality or the way we see the world. Even where it appears that we agree that we’re seeing the same thing, e.g. an apple, our perceptions will be different even if only subtly so. One person may be disgusted because the apple evokes memories of being force fed fruit when a child, while in another warm memories of time spent in the orchard on their parent’s farm may be evoked. Continue reading

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Relationships Matter – Introspection

Self-introspection is something we should all do regularly. Unfortunately only the emotionally, intellectually and morally courageous amongst us actually do. Most of us are intellectual, emotional and moral cowards. Having said that all of us are capable of developing intellectual, emotional and moral courage; it just takes a desire to do so and a willingness to bear the discomfort of bad feelings in order to acknowledge and accept them as opposed to ignoring and suppressing them. Continue reading

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