Relationships Matter – Stuff

ON SOUL SPOUSES

β™‘ So EveryOne I Had a CLEAR REJECTION after Eight Years Together; is AnyOne Prepared to Discuss whether I Had a FAKE PROMISE at My Marriage after Four Years Living Together then Separation and Divorce…as Wonderful a Woman She is it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I AM Better Off WithOut Her Faking, Her Falsity, Her Fraudulence and, of course, Confusion and, of course, Mine Too; what d’yall THINK!!! Don’t Be Shy Now πŸ€” ?

#Resentment
#NotCool
#MisCommunication
#Dictatorship
#MyWayOrTheHighWay
#Abuse

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ON FAIRNESS AND PATIENCE

We ARE NOT!!! Born Prejudicial; We ARE Shown, Told & Taught How to Discriminate:

β™‘ Physical Appearance and Our Behaviour
β™‘ Religon, Culture and ‘isms’ such as Sexism
β™‘ Envy of Talent and Ignorance of Self-Talent

…the List of Prejudice and Discrimination is Totally Endless and Often UnConscious; yet this Parental Conditioning from Upbringing Can Be 100%, Really Reversed…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Returning to The Purity of Our Childlike State is The Way to Accomplish this Reversal while Retaining ALL of Our Experience; so Next Time You ARE Socialising with a Family Member, Friend, Colleague, Client, Customer, Associate or Acquaintance who Says “I AM ALWAYS BUSY!!!” and Seems To Be in a RUSH!!! Ask Them This Question if You Dare:

β™‘ “Why THE HURRY!!! if You Carry On This Way You May as Well Die Quickly; ne c’est pas, comprendΓ©, understand πŸ€” ?”

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ON MY SISTARS FROM YOUR BROTHERS

β™‘ I Recently Referred to a Number of Ladies as ‘Wicked Witches’ for which I Make No Apology; now, on Behalf of ALL Wonderful Warrior Warlocks, I AM Sending Out a Shout to ALL The Wonderful Warrior Witches who I AM Blessed to be Associated with in Our Mutual, Symbiotic, Caring, Kind, Compassionate Coven πŸ˜€πŸ˜ŠπŸ€—

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

ON 3DLIFE

So You Hate Your Life πŸ€” ? Here’s a Respectful Suggestion; FUCKING WELL PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER!!! πŸ˜†πŸ˜…πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š …You ARE The Only One who CAN CHOOSE!!! Your Views and Perceptions; so How About Change The Way You:

β™‘ 1. THINK!!! πŸ€” ?
♀ 2. SPEAK!!! πŸ€” ?
β—‡ 3. BEHAVE!!! πŸ€” ?

…these links may Help You; they Have Certainly Assisted Me:

β™‘ http://www.ericberne.com
β™‘ http://www.selfishcapitalist.com
β™‘ http://www.theradiantgroup.com.au

…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I Wish You ALL Well; also Good Luck with Your Endeavours and, please, recognise Bad Luck for Good Luck that Bad Luck actually is which means Bad Luck is Very, Very, Very Good for Creative/Business Practices and Our Myriad Personal Relationships…

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ON AUTHENTICALLY MOVING ON

We often THINK!!! We Have Moved On when, in fact, We Have Simply Brushed Our Issues Under Our Mental Carpet instead of Vacuuming then Emptying Our Mental Dust in to The Trash; authentic catharsis is accomplished by Admitting, Acknowledging and Addressing Our MMHI (Multiple Mental Health Issues) brought on by Our Conditioned Upbringing a Key Component of Which is Processing Our UnProcessed Past while Remaining Present

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ON THE IGNORAMUS DUMBASS

♀ I Know Nothing EveryOne, I Know EveryThing EveryOne; especially How to Get Others Upset with My Intellect and Ignorance πŸ˜†πŸ˜…πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š

…♀♀♀…

ON LEADERSHIP

β™‘ I Do NOT!!! Believe in Leading because I Have Faith and Conviction in Others to Lead ThemSelves as I Lead MySelf; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I Assist Deluded Dictators Rid ThemSelves of Such Lead NoneSense which is Very, Very, Very Good for Creative/Business Practices and Personal Relationships…it’s also Crystal Clear Clarity that The Student is The Teacher is The Student is The Teacher is The Student is The Teacher; it’s SomeThing We Would ALL Do Well to REMEMBER!!!

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ON PROMISES, COMMITMENT AND OBLIGATION

As Creative/Business Personal People We May Run in to The Trap of OverEstimating Our Current Capacity to Deliver; be careful EveryOne, Please

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ON PAIN AND ADDICTION

β™‘ For Some Pain is An Addiction; Rage, Fury, Grief…for Others Pain is a Signal for Healing or Growth; I Will Certainly, Calmly, Tell My Kids

β™‘ “If you stop thinking of the pain as hurting you will realise that you are healing or growing.”

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ON SELF-ABSORBED, SELF-LOATHING SELF-TALK AND SELF-PITY

When We Perceive that We ARE Being Insulted, Put Down, Mocked, Destructivly Criticised et al by Another aka Bullying, Trolling and ALL those Other ‘Negative’ Nasties (often dressed up by Attackers (Wolf In Sheeps Clothing) as ‘Positive’ Feedback) I THINK!!! that Visualisation is a Very Powerful Way for Us to Get Things in Perspective; one of My Favourite Visualisations is ‘The Bullet Proof, Rubberised One Way Mirror’…in this Visualisation The Attacker is on The Mirror Side with gun in hand and I AM on The Other Side Seeing Them with Cystal Clear Clarity and, from Their Angry Perspective, Being a Disembodied Voice of Argument…eventually They Become Raging to the extent that they fire bullets at The Mirror where The Voice is coming from; so this means:

β™‘ 1. They ARE firing at Their Reflection
β™‘ 2. The bullets ARE Their Bullying Behaviour
β™‘ 3. The bullets RICOCHET!!! off The Rubberised Mirror Back at Them

…another Visualisation is Imagining, from a Place of Care, Kindness and Compassion, that The Attacker is in a Vulnerable Place and The Bullying Behaviour is Their Clumsy Way of Asking for Assistance; then it becomes Crystal Clear Clarity to You that These Horrible Words ARE NOT!!! about You at ALL, in fact The Attacker wants:

β™‘ “…to be like you, talk like you, walk like you…” ~ look up this quote online for a bit of Childlike Inspiration on how to Deal with Attackers EveryOne

…to Manage an Attacker to More Effective, Respectful and Productive Forms of Getting Their Message Across is by No Means an Easy UnderTaking; yet it’s Worth It and Good for Our Creative/Business Practices and Personal Relationships…

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ON HAIKU

β™‘ Disappointment And Despair

I wrote us down this little verse
To suggest for us it could be worse
Yet also much better if we’re less terse

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ON JOURNEYS AND DESTINATIONS

β™‘ The Start of My 3DJourney is Conception and The End is Death; ergo My End Goal, My Destination, is to Die Happy…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that there ARE Many WayStations on This Journey that I Have Mistook for a Destination, End Goals; sadly, previously, spiking somewhat of late recently, ARE The Suicides of Super ‘Successful’ People who ‘Have It ALL’…so I Exhort You ALL to Consider whether You ARE Heading for The Optimal, Right WayStation along Your 3DJourney or Heading for a Self-Imposed Death Trap; whether it’s 10, 100, 1000 or Seemingly Infinite years, Die Happy…a WayStation is a Place on a Journey for Rest, Reflection, Relaxation, Rejuvenation, Refreshment and then Resumption of Journey; so if At Any Given Moment 3DLife seems like a WayStation then treat it as such…it’s OBVIOUS!!! that Travails of The Past Feed in to Travails of The Future which tend to be somewhat more difficult than Those of The Past, Understandably so; it’s also Crystal Clear Clarity that I AM Grateful For and Appreciative Of WayStations as I Await My Next Challenge on My Journey to Dying Happy which is Very, Very, Very Good for Creative/Business Practices and Personal Relationships

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ON ‘SUCCESS’, ASPIRATIONS AND AMBITIONS

Wanna ‘Succeed’ EveryOne; REALLY!!! Satisfactorily ‘Succeed’ πŸ€” ? If so Here ARE Three Simple Free Steps to Define Your Own, Personal, Individual, Unique Version of ‘Success’:

β™‘ 1. Set Your Intention Based on Your Dreams and NOT!!! on The Failed Dreams of Others; especially The Failed Dreams of Parents and Other ‘Authority’
β™‘ 2. Be Flexible; there is NOTHING!!! Wrong with PLANNING!!! there is EveryThing WRONG!!! with a FAILING PLAN!!!
β™‘ 3. Be Open to Things UnFolding in UnExpected Ways; then Watch in Wonder as The Outcome Exceeds ALL of Our Expectation in Ways We NEVER EVER!!! Imagined

…so Be Led or Lead OurSelves; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that it is Our CHOICE!!!…

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

ON HAIKU

β™‘ Staying Sane

Emotions Ebb and Flow
Thoughts Come and Go
It Pays to Let Them Do So

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

…I Used to believe I AM Able to do “ANYTHING!!!” then I Realised My “Limits”; so I Accepted that There ARE Things I AM UnAble to do like Being a Rocket Scientist, Plumber, Carpenter, Fly et al…so I Accept what I AM Able to do and I Do it VERY FUCKING WELL!!! and Expertly πŸ˜†πŸ˜…πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š …

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ON ANGER, RAGE, FURY, SADNESS, GRIEF, BEREFT AND OTHER UPSET

β™‘ People of ALL Genders ARE NEVER!!! Made Angry 😣πŸ˜₯πŸ˜– EveryOne; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that We GET ANGRY!!! 😡😑😠 then We Become Shocked and Sad 😨😒😭 …it’s The Monster Under The Bed, The Monster in The Cupboard, The Monster InSide of Us that We NEED!!! to BeFriend in Order to Manage Our Perceptions of Upsetting Situations; ‘Monsters Inc.’ ~ Movie…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Managing Our Perceptions Keeps Us Calm and is Very Good for Creative/Business Practices and Personal Relationships, My View and Experience is that I Have No NEED!!! to Work on My Strengths EveryOne; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that My Strengths ARE Working for Me πŸ€“ …so I Work on My Weaknesses; three of which ARE:

β™‘ 1. I Don’t Like Being Around People Because I AM Considered InAppropriate and They Get UPSET!!! Γ‘ la so 😬😑😠
β™‘ 2. I AM Financially Lazy so I AM Poor πŸ€‘
β™‘ 3. I Don’t Like Fleas in My Ear so I AM Single πŸ˜”

…πŸ˜†πŸ˜…πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š ; getting The Cosmic Joke is a 3DLife Crowning Accomplishment EveryOne…

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ON JERKS, DARKNESS AND MMHI

We talk of Dark Powers, Demons et al as External to OurSelves; yet The Only Monsters under Our Beds ARE The Monsters InSide of Us…when We Admit, Acknowledge And Address Our MMHI (Multiple Mental Health Issues) brought on by Our Conditioned Upbringing a Wonderful Thing Happens; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that We Return to The Purity of Our Childlike State and Watch in Wonder as Our Refreshed Curiosity has Us Innovating and Co-Creating Together

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ON PERCEPTION AND SELF FLAGELLATION

I AM NOT!!! a Qualified Mental Health Professional; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I AM a PhD from The University of Life…the Obviousness of Why We Have a ‘Negative’ Perception of ‘Negativity’ yet ARE UnAware of ‘Negative’ Perception of ‘Positivity’ is Funny; for example:

β™‘ Jealousy/Envy/Covetousness
β™‘ Anxiety/Resentment/Depression
β™‘ Rage/Anger/Fury

…are just a Few Consequences of Extreme ‘Positivity’; it’s also Crystal Clear Clarity to Me that We ARE Conditioned to Accept ‘Getting Things Right’ as The Norm so We Tend to Dwell on Our ‘Negativity’ which is Extremely UnHealthy Mentally…if We ‘Get Things Wrong’ We Get in to DEEP TROUBLE!!! if We Don’t Cover Up Our ‘Shortcomings’ Effectively; it is My Experience that if I AM to Focus Effectively on Areas for Improvement (‘Negativity’) then I Need to Focus on My Accomplishments and Achievements (‘Positivity’) Simultaneously…it is then that I SEE (Soulful Emotional Energy) IT; there is The Mole Hill of My ‘Negative’ Past and The Mountain of My ‘Positive’ Past Weighing about The Same so I CHOOSE!!! to Carry The Mountain and Keep an Eye on The Mole Hill which is Very Good for Creative/Business Practices and Personal Relationships

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ON VENGEANCE, VENDETTAS AND REVENGE

β™‘ “Resentment is like drinking poison while hoping the other person dies.” ~ St Augustine

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ON HAIKU

β™‘ Staying Sane

Emotions Ebb and Flow
Thoughts Come and Go
It Pays to Let Them Do So

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

ON BEING PISSED OFF!!!

It’s Quite Often that We Get Irritated with Being Questioned; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I ALWAYS!!! Say to The Questioner:

β—‡ “Your Answer to Your Question is InSide of You and I Don’t Have Your Answer InSide of Me. You KNOW!!! Your Answer but Seek an Argument, an Affirmation of Existing Beliefs or an Authentic Approach for New Information. I AM only Able to Share My Experience which is NOT!!! Your Experience πŸ€“ ; it’s My Experience and Mine Alone πŸ€— .”

…I KNOW!!! when I AM Being Authentic rather than InAuthentic, Ugly, Fake, False and Fraudulent EveryOne πŸ˜πŸ™„πŸ˜Š because there is Next To No GAG in My Being; GAG Being:

β™‘ Guilt, Shame and Embarrassment
β™‘ Anger, Rage and Fury
β™‘ Grief, Sadness and Depression

…of course it’s NOT!!! about Elimination of These Ugly Things; because We ARE ALL Human after ALL so it is ALL About Our Effective Management of These Ugly Things don’cha’yall THINK!!! πŸ€” ?…I Do THINK!!! it Very, Very, Very Good for Creative/Business Practices and Our Personal Relationships to Manage These Ugly Things so how about You; what do You THINK!!! πŸ€” ?…

#ANXIETY
#RAGE
#DEPRESSION
#ANGER
#SADNESS
#FURY

…♀◇♑…

ON OMNIVORES

I WILL!!! Commit to Veganism/Vegetarianism when a Vegetarian/Vegan provides Me with Incontrovertible Proof and Evidence that They Have Convinced The Lion to, indeed, Lay Down with The Lamb and NOT!!! Eat The Lamb; ‘cos, currently, Lions and Other Canivores Hunt and Eat Herbivores and, indeed, sometimes Eat other Canivores too…now, please, don’t insult Other Entities with The Argument of They Have No CHOICE!!! like Humans Do 😝 ; I Have too many Hypocritical, Fake, False, Fraudulent Vegan/Vegetarian Friends who Have Admitted to Eating Meat on The Quiet to be Swayed by such a Weak Argument πŸ˜†πŸ˜…πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

ON FAIRNESS AND PATIENCE

We ARE NOT!!! Born Prejudicial; We ARE Shown, Told & Taught How to Discriminate:

β™‘ Physical Appearance and Our Behaviour
β™‘ Religon, Culture and ‘isms’ such as Sexism
β™‘ Envy of Talent and Ignorance of Self-Talent

…the List of Prejudice and Discrimination is Totally Endless and Often UnConscious; yet this Parental Conditioning from Upbringing Can Be 100%, Really Reversed…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Returning to The Purity of Our Childlike State is The Way to Accomplish this Reversal while Retaining ALL of Our Experience; so Next Time You ARE Socialising with a Family Member, Friend, Colleague, Client, Customer, Associate or Acquaintance who Says “I AM ALWAYS BUSY!!!” and Seems To Be in a RUSH!!! Ask Them This Question if You Dare:

β™‘ “Why THE HURRY!!! if You Carry On This Way You May as Well Die Quickly; ne c’est pas, comprendΓ©, understand πŸ€” ?”

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

ON PARTNERSHIPS AND TEAMWORK

β™‘ AM I Doing What I AM Doing For Me and The Benefit of ALL; or AM I Doing It For Selfish Me, Selfish SomeOne Else or For Selfish Others πŸ€” ?

…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that We ALL Have Talent; it’s Easy to InterAct when We ARE Being Praised…it’s Actually Quite Funny, in a Really Bad Way, Watching Dictators Taking Advantage of The Willingness of The Talented to Assist; so I Say This to The Talented, Remember How to Say:

β™‘ “I Refuse!!!”

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

ON COMMITMENTS

After My Separation and Divorce I Changed My Perception of “promises” EveryOne; paraphrasing Stephen Hawking:

β™‘ ‘When I Let Go of Expectation EveryThing Changed.’

…a “promise” is Only Valid in The Moment it is Expressed; like a Contract NOT WORTH THE PAPER IT’S WRITTEN ON!!! so I Suggest treat a “promise” as “Fake” and AVOID ALL AND ANY DISAPPOINTMENT!!! or BE PLEASANTLY SURPRISED!!!…there is a LOT!!! to be Said for The Emotional Value of Pessimism and Negativity as long as They ARE in Balance with Positivity and Optimism…being Very Well Marshalled and Managed πŸ€“

…β™‘β™‘β™‘…

ON EMOTION

I AM a Boy; I AM HAD:

β—‡ Healed
β™‘ Anxious
♧ Depressed

…♀♀♀…

About Yernasia Quorelios

Writer, Philosopher, Pseudo Psyche, Ascension Assistant, WordSmith, Reader
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