Relationships Matter – True Transformation

…Attachment & Addiction to SomeOne Else is often Mistaken for Feelings of Kindness & Compassion when, in fact, The Opposite is True…Attachment & Addiction to Another often lead to Cruelty, Contempt, Jealousy & Rage which are often Excused as ‘Tough Love’ when in Reality it is The Removal of Our Inalienable Right for Our Access to Choice; We Need to Take Care that We Understand Our Motivations when We Say “I Love You.” to Another ๐Ÿค” …I Have found that Love Creates Hate in order to Experience itself; most unfortunately for Love, with this Risky Strategy, Reconciliation is Rare ๐Ÿ˜ฃ …this is Obviously not the case ALL the time; Love is Perfectly Capable of Existing in The Absence of Hate as is The Case when We Reconcile and Hate Dissipates or when We Constantly, Consensually, Compromise Kindly ๐Ÿค— …My Experience is that Hate is a Demand for Love, Hatred for Others starts off as Self-Hatred manifesting as Rage (Red Anger Outwards) or Depression (Blue Anger Inwards); if We Are Self-Hating finding a way to Transmute, Alchemise & Transform that Self-Hatred in to Self-Love brings Us Back On The Way to Rediscovering Love in The Absence of Hate as We Had as Children, the Most Frustrating thing about being a Baby/Toddler is not Being Able to tell ‘Grown Ups’ what We Know…by the time We Have the Words to Explain We Are so Tied Up in Conditioning, Rules & Regulations that We Have Forgotten; it takes a Lifetime or Few to Remember ๐Ÿ˜’ as Children Our Challenge is Threefold:
โ™ก 1. To Shed Our Conditioned Upbringing and to Rediscover Our True Selves

โ™ก 2. To Parent Our Parents as We Help Them Shed Their Conditioning Too

โ™ก 3. To Remember Why We Are Here
…’Advanced’ Society Patriarchically Insists that Parenting is a One Way Street of “DO AS YOU ARE TOLD OR ELSE!!! ๐Ÿ˜ ”, ‘Advanced’ Society Matriarchy Guilt Trips Us with “Do as You Will and Don’t Worry if it Upsets Me; I’ll be FINE!!!. ๐Ÿ˜ข”; ‘Primitive’ Society strikes a Balance stating “We Learn from Our Children; We Protect Our Children ๐Ÿ˜€.” …a Friend of Mine described Conception as “Seeds in a Pot of Dirt” Knowing that The “Dirt” is The Only Reason a Child Survives and is Born; Please Respect The ‘Dirty’ Womb…only We Know Why We Bully OurSelves, Why We Are Self-Loathing, Why We Are Anxious, Extreme Anxiety leading to Red and/or Blue Anger; so only We Know what is Going to Work to Rediscover Our Self-Love ‘cos if We Are not there for OurSelves, We Cannot Be there for AnyOne Else which is a Solvable Paradox ๐Ÿ™„ The Key to ‘success’ is to Ensure that We Have an Authentic Understanding of what Our Own, Personal, Individual, Unique Definition of what ‘success’ Means to OurSelves; without this Understanding ALL other ‘success’ is a Phyrrhic Victory ๐Ÿ˜ …We Can be Assisted by Others but that works only if We Are Authentically coming from a Place of Our Acceptance that We Want that Assistance; Calm is The Key, it is all about Our Authentic Acceptance of Our Overwhelming Emotions without Our Succumbing to them which is Not an Easy Enterprise by any means ๐Ÿ˜ฏ …Acceptance is The Letting Go of Expectation; No Expectation Equates to No Disappointment ๐Ÿค— …I Suffer from Abundance Remorse; by Societal Standards of ‘Advanced’ Society I Am POOR!!! I Think I Have Too Much…some have Three Items of Clothing and a Food Bowl; They Travel sharing Their Wisdom in Exchange for Food & Shelter and They Are STILL HERE!!! Doing Their Thing ๐Ÿ˜€ …’Advanced’ Society Demands Competition & Hoarding, ‘Primitive’ Society Encourages Sharing & Minimalism; Both are ‘Right’ and Both are ‘Wrong’, so How do We Resolve this Paradox ๐Ÿค”? …Love in The Absence of Hate is Willingness to Continue Communication in the interests of Consensual Compromise no matter what; Extremism, Stubbornness, Set Ways, Intransigence and Such Things get in The Way of Loving Communication…yet We Have Every Right to Choose to Avoid Those We Perceive as ‘Jerks’, ‘(Arse/Ass)holes’, ‘Dickheads’, ‘Dumbassess’, ‘Bitches’, ‘Bastards’, ‘Twats’, ‘Wankers’, ‘Cunts’, ‘Knobheads’, ‘Negative’, ‘Toxic’, ‘Abusive’, ‘Drags on Our Energy’, ‘Psychos’ and AnyThing Else of That Nature; all the while Remembering that ALL of this Nastiness is a Projection & Reflection of Our Own, Personal, Individual, Unique Darkness…that is not to say We Are Asking for Trouble or Deserve Trouble; it is just to say that if We Attract Trouble then We Do Well to Examine WHY!!!?…there are a number of things We Can Do to Effectively Examine; a Very Worthwhile Activity is Entering Our Observation Zone…this means allowing Negativity to Run its Course while Examining it; it’s not easy but there’s a point where this becomes an Enjoyable Activity where We Laugh at how Ludicrous Negativity is and at the Seriousness Attached to it…I Played Rugby; one of Rugbys Favourite Mantras is “Enjoy The Pain!!!” ๐Ÿ˜€ …that said I Did Not Enjoy The Pain of My Divorce; so I Have turned Courting on its Head…I Call it WFC (Worst First Courting); I Wait for My Twin Flame to Hunt Me Down like The Dog that I Am then I Behave in an Abominable Manner, if She Sticks Around She’s a Keeper ๐Ÿ˜‹ …If We Choose to Use Our Heads to Determine the Status of a Relationship it is not a Relationship of Our Heart; a Relationship of Our Heart may be Challenging yet it is Authentic & Permanent…a Relationship with Our Head is Inauthentic & Impermanent, a Relationship with Our Head Taxes Our Energy rather than Fueling Our Energy; a Relationship of Our Heart Fuels Our Energy, YES!!!, even with Rage (Red Anger Outwards) or Depression (Blue Anger Inwards) ๐Ÿ™„ …We Have to Make A Decision, We Have to Choose, Abstention is NOT!!! an Option if We Desire to Continue Evolving…’Primitive’ Folk say “We Learn from Our Children.”; what do The Kids in Our 3DLives have to say ๐Ÿค”? So just how do We Get to an Authentic Shared Vision? We Are Being Challenged to Transcend 5th Dimensional Evolution; We Are Being Challenged to take a Quantum Leap to 9D…how about We Greet that Challenge; how about We Mutate ๐Ÿค“?  …it is always Falling In To Place; it’s just that We Don’t always THINK!!! that it is Falling In To Place ๐Ÿ™„ …We THINK!!! We Are Falling Apart, My Experience is that We Are Falling Together no matter what; it Truly is a ‘Leap of Faith’ ๐Ÿ˜‡ …

About Yernasia Quorelios

Writer, Philosopher, Pseudo Psyche, Ascension Assistant, WordSmith, Reader
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