ON LOVE & HATE, RAGE & CALM, SELF & OTHERS
…Attachment & Addiction to SomeOne Else is often Mistaken for Feelings of Kindness & Compassion when, in fact, The Opposite is True…Attachment & Addiction to Another often lead to Cruelty, Contempt, Jealousy & Rage which are often Excused as ‘Tough Love’ when in Reality it is The Removal of Our Inalienable Right for Our Access to Choice; We Need to Take Care that We Understand Our Motivations when We Say “I Love You.” to Another 🤔 …I Have found that Love Creates Hate in order to Experience itself; most unfortunately for Love, with this Risky Strategy, Reconciliation is Rare 😣 …this is Obviously not the case ALL the time; Love is Perfectly Capable of Existing in The Absence of Hate as is The Case when We Reconcile and Hate Dissipates or when We Constantly, Consensually, Compromise Kindly 🤗 …My Experience is that Hate is a Demand for Love, Hatred for Others starts off as Self-Hatred manifesting as Rage (Red Anger Outwards) or Depression (Blue Anger Inwards); if We Are Self-Hating finding a way to Transmute, Alchemise & Transform that Self-Hatred in to Self-Love brings Us Back On The Way to Rediscovering Love in The Absence of Hate as We Had as Children, the Most Frustrating thing about being a Baby/Toddler is not Being Able to tell ‘Grown Ups’ what We Know…by the time We Have the Words to Explain We Are so Tied Up in Conditioning, Rules & Regulations that We Have Forgotten; it takes a Lifetime or Few to Remember 😒 as Children Our Challenge is Threefold:
♡ 1. To Shed Our Conditioned Upbringing and to Rediscover Our True Selves
♡ 2. To Parent Our Parents as We Help Them Shed Their Conditioning Too
♡ 3. To Remember Why We Are Here
…’Advanced’ Society Patriarchically Insists that Parenting is a One Way Street of “DO AS YOU ARE TOLD OR ELSE!!! 😠”, ‘Advanced’ Society Matriarchy Guilt Trips Us with “Do as You Will and Don’t Worry if it Upsets Me; I’ll be FINE!!!. 😢”; ‘Primitive’ Society strikes a Balance stating “We Learn from Our Children; We Protect Our Children 😀.” …a Friend of Mine described Conception as “Seeds in a Pot of Dirt” Knowing that The “Dirt” is The Only Reason a Child Survives and is Born; Please Respect The ‘Dirty’ Womb…only We Know Why We Bully OurSelves, Why We Are Self-Loathing, Why We Are Anxious, Extreme Anxiety leading to Red and/or Blue Anger; so only We Know what is Going to Work to Rediscover Our Self-Love ‘cos if We Are not there for OurSelves, We Cannot Be there for AnyOne Else which is a Solvable Paradox 🙄 The Key to ‘success’ is to Ensure that We Have an Authentic Understanding of what Our Own, Personal, Individual, Unique Definition of what ‘success’ Means to OurSelves; without this Understanding ALL other ‘success’ is a Phyrrhic Victory 😐 …We Can be Assisted by Others but that works only if We Are Authentically coming from a Place of Our Acceptance that We Want that Assistance; Calm is The Key, it is all about Our Authentic Acceptance of Our Overwhelming Emotions without Our Succumbing to them which is Not an Easy Enterprise by any means 😯 …Acceptance is The Letting Go of Expectation; No Expectation Equates to No Disappointment 🤗 …I Suffer from Abundance Remorse; by Societal Standards of ‘Advanced’ Society I Am POOR!!! I Think I Have Too Much…some have Three Items of Clothing and a Food Bowl; They Travel sharing Their Wisdom in Exchange for Food & Shelter and They Are STILL HERE!!! Doing Their Thing 😀 …’Advanced’ Society Demands Competition & Hoarding, ‘Primitive’ Society Encourages Sharing & Minimalism; Both are ‘Right’ and Both are ‘Wrong’, so How do We Resolve this Paradox 🤔? …Love in The Absence of Hate is Willingness to Continue Communication in the interests of Consensual Compromise no matter what; Extremism, Stubbornness, Set Ways, Intransigence and Such Things get in The Way of Loving Communication…yet We Have Every Right to Choose to Avoid Those We Perceive as ‘Jerks’, ‘(Arse/Ass)holes’, ‘Dickheads’, ‘Dumbassess’, ‘Bitches’, ‘Bastards’, ‘Twats’, ‘Wankers’, ‘Cunts’, ‘Knobheads’, ‘Negative’, ‘Toxic’, ‘Abusive’, ‘Drags on Our Energy’, ‘Psychos’ and AnyThing Else of That Nature; all the while Remembering that ALL of this Nastiness is a Projection & Reflection of Our Own, Personal, Individual, Unique Darkness…that is not to say We Are Asking for Trouble or Deserve Trouble; it is just to say that if We Attract Trouble then We Do Well to Examine WHY!!!?…there are a number of things We Can Do to Effectively Examine; a Very Worthwhile Activity is Entering Our Observation Zone…this means allowing Negativity to Run its Course while Examining it; it’s not easy but there’s a point where this becomes an Enjoyable Activity where We Laugh at how Ludicrous Negativity is and at the Seriousness Attached to it…I Played Rugby; one of Rugbys Favourite Mantras is “Enjoy The Pain!!!” 😀 …that said I Did Not Enjoy The Pain of My Divorce; so I Have turned Courting on its Head…I Call it WFC (Worst First Courting); I Wait for My Twin Flame to Hunt Me Down like The Dog that I Am then I Behave in an Abominable Manner, if She Sticks Around She’s a Keeper 😋 …If We Choose to Use Our Heads to Determine the Status of a Relationship it is not a Relationship of Our Heart; a Relationship of Our Heart may be Challenging yet it is Authentic & Permanent…a Relationship with Our Head is Inauthentic & Impermanent, a Relationship with Our Head Taxes Our Energy rather than Fueling Our Energy; a Relationship of Our Heart Fuels Our Energy, YES!!!, even with Rage (Red Anger Outwards) or Depression (Blue Anger Inwards) 🙄 …We Have to Make A Decision, We Have to Choose, Abstention is NOT!!! an Option if We Desire to Continue Evolving…’Primitive’ Folk say “We Learn from Our Children.”; what do The Kids in Our 3DLives have to say 🤔? So just how do We Get to an Authentic Shared Vision? We Are Being Challenged to Transcend 5th Dimensional Evolution; We Are Being Challenged to take a Quantum Leap to 9D…how about We Greet that Challenge; how about We Mutate 🤓? …it is always Falling In To Place; it’s just that We Don’t always THINK!!! that it is Falling In To Place 🙄 …We THINK!!! We Are Falling Apart, My Experience is that We Are Falling Together no matter what; it Truly is a ‘Leap of Faith’ 😇 …
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Relationship Insights by Yernasia Quorelios 